How do you do it? I emailed my friend. How do you consistently read beyond my mere words and have the most spot on reply?
Our worlds are different, our lives our different, our personalities are different, but she gets me.
Here’s a reply I did not send to a different friend and situation.
Your response to my situation is factual, but not helpful. Not helpful to me and my heart and my desire to now want to punch you for not getting it.
The difference? Empathy. The gift who says, “though your path may not be my path and your story may not be my story, I can glimpse – at times a bit and others deeply –what it might be like for you”.
Empathy helps us respond accordingly. We weep with those who weep and we rejoice with those who rejoice.
Empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy says, I am so sorry for your lose and your pain. Sympathy is able to grieve and it is needed here in Eden Lost. But sympathy won’t have a starring role in Eden Regained when there are no more sorrows or tears.
The word became flesh and dwelt amongst us. When we respond with empathy to a friend or a situation, we are putting on flesh and dwelling.
Let’s be real for a moment. Some of you reading this aren’t very empathetic and some have their empathy tip a bit too much into sympathy. I’m not saying BE MORE EMPATHETIC, though if the Spirit is prompting you, listen.
My desire is to remind us that we will not always struggle to understand another’s path, their joys, their pains. We will still be limited in Eden Regained, we won’t be able to experience everything. We will not become God. But we will be empathetic without the twisting and distorting of Eden Lost.
We will be able to walk more fully with each other. No twinges of jealousy or frustrations of dinner preparation interrupted as we listen. No, our responses will be pure, unadulterated and flavored with empathy.
Can you recall a recent time you were “gotten?”
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