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The difference between “being found” and “being found out”

found vs found out

I was spending time with dear friends and in introducing me to their friend, they told him, “This is our Amy who lived in China for years. We’ve told you all about her.” He said to me, “Oh, I bet you’re fluent in Chinese then.” Once again I had to say, “No, I’m not really fluent in Chinese. I’m adequate, but I’m not very good.” It was a moment of feeling found out.

It was too much to go into with him—especially since this was a teenage boy! He doesn’t care to know God did not call me to be really great at Chinese. God called me to be adequate. God called me to be really good at other things. As I said, that dear, sweet young man did not care to know all the other things I’m actually good at it, but I felt found out.

I had to lean into that and to say to myself, “That’s actually not the truth. I have not been found out because this doesn’t need to be a point of shame for me.”

The Velvet Ashes book club is reading What Women Fear by Angie Smith and chapter three is “The Fear of Being Found Out.”

As I read the chapter, it raised this question for me: what’s the difference between “being found” and “being found out?”

The phrases only differ by a preposition, but what a difference a preposition makes, eh? Between being found and being found out. If you’re lost, there’s nothing better than that sense when you realize, “Oh, I know where I am.” Or when someone gives you clear directions and helps you to be found. The relief that floods you can be felt in every pore. It is visceral.

But if you’re found out is initially not a relief. If you’re afraid that something is going to be found out about your family or your finances or any other number of things, there’s fear there.

That is the root difference between being found and being found out. The core of being found is relief, and the core of being found out is fear.

As we remember Christ’s willingness

to be betrayed,

to restore the chopped off ear of the soldier who came to arrest him,

to take unjust accusations,

to be mocked and beaten,

to die a painful death.

Why?

To find us. And in finding us, he rescued us from the folly and destruction of our sin and restore us to who we were really meant to be.

God is in the business of helping us be found, not found out.

Amen and Amen. Thank you Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. We are still in Easter Time and the marvel of it all never dims.

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5 Comments April 19, 2016

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My name is Amy and I live in the messy middle of life. I have been Redeemed from permanent muck and live with the tension of the Already and Not Yet.

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  1. Tanya Marlow says

    April 19, 2016 at 9:12 am

    I love this! I know so well that emotion of being found out

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    • Amy Young says

      April 21, 2016 at 9:51 am

      Thanks friend! Hugs.

      Reply
  2. Jody Collins says

    April 20, 2016 at 12:27 pm

    Ohhhh, good words here. Yes, what a difference a preposition makes!

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    • Amy Young says

      April 21, 2016 at 9:52 am

      So small, yet so huge, eh?!

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  3. LeAnne P says

    April 21, 2016 at 11:24 pm

    I actually have the same fear of being found out about the same thing. People back home expect my Chinese to be much better than it is regardless of the fact that I’ve never studied it and use English with our students…

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