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Ten “Americans Really Do THAT?” from Chinese Scholars Living in the U.S.

Loving more than one land means having lots of holidays to celebrate :)!

Monday was the Mid-Autumn Festival in China. Traditionally it is at harvest time with the family gathering, looking at the full moon and eating mooncakes. Now, it’s a good chance to comment on the sky and “share the love” by giving friends mooncakes.

Here’s what one looks like:

Mooncake

Here’s what some of the fancier molds can look like:
Mooncake molds

 

This year I was given mooncakes by some visiting scholars and for the first time I saw this:

Mooncake info 2

Yikes! Better to enjoy and not know :)!

It’s fun to see how elements of culture like mooncakes morph and adapt to time and place. Below are 10 cultural observation that are a bit more serious and a good reminder to ask friends questions! (This will be the only post for the week as a Messy Middle Newsletter will be coming out later this week). Looking at the moon and thinking fond thoughts about you!

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I’m sure you’ve done it, I know I have. Asked a Chinese friend or colleague what stood out to them if they had a chance to visit your home country. I enjoy hearing what stood out to them or to friends who have visited me in China. Their impressions help me to see afresh the places I care about.

If you’ve had the privilege of living in a foreign country, you know it’s different than visiting it. More and more Chinese are able to travel abroad, but it is a rare opportunity for scholars to get to live in a foreign country and rarer still to have their spouse and child live with them.

I currently live near such a rare opportunity. Denver University hosts numerous visiting scholars from all over China. Some come for a semester, others for a year, and many are able to bring spouse and child, enrolling their children in American schools. I asked a group of 16 visiting scholars and their spouses what stood out or surprised them about life in the U.S. Having lived in China, I thought I knew what would stand out to my Chinese friends after living in the U.S. for an extended period of time. Their answers reminded me why it’s good to keep asking questions and not assume!

I’ve combined their answers into 10 categories and share in no particular order:

1.  Most of the things in the shops are made in China. Even in the tourist stores in Santa Fe, the trinkets were made in China! I had no idea of this before I came to America.

2.  Americans can make necessary items such as food and clothing at such low prices. I have been surprised at the low prices and the way American businesses have systems to lower prices. With so much government involvement in China, there are not as many systems to lower prices.

3.  The relationship between humans and nature is encouraged and I’ve seen animals around. I live near a public park that was established in the 1890’s! A related comment: It is quiet in Denver.

4.  It is easy to do many things in the U.S. that are more difficult in China, such as enrolling my child in school and getting a driver’s license. In China you need to buy a good apartment near a good school, in America you can just rent or live near a good school.

5. Hospice and palliative care is good in America! The social workers are very nice and the hardware of facilities is of high quality.

6.  The culture of a university is different between America and China. Much more so than I expected. Here, the president is not such a special person and people in the government don’t have positions at the school.

7.  I was surprised by the number of churches in a neighborhood and the size of playgrounds for children at school.

8.  Because their children were enrolled in schools, there were quite a few comments related to education.

  • Many things about American education are not what I was told in China as I got ready to move here.
  • America is a paradise for kids (I’d heard this, and it is true!). I’ve never seen a child begging in the U.S.
  • American teachers are more strict than expected. My child’s classmate was punished, I didn’t expect this.
  • High school is not so easy!
  • Every time I see a school bus I am moved and hope Chinese kids will be protected in such safety.
  • My daughter is in elementary school and the first class there was an article about human rights.
  • There is not as much homework in elementary school as there is in China.

9.  I thought I understood the government of the U.S. But after visiting the capitals in New Mexico and Colorado, the government is much more limited than I understood. All three branches can fit in one building!

10. Random observations: soccer is not so popular; I was shipped a product that was out of date (this happens in China, I did not expect it to happen here); and dessert is really sweet.

If you’ve lived in China for any amount of time, I’m sure parts of this list did not surprise you. But, I’ll admit, as they shared and I took notes, a few of these caught me by surprise. I wouldn’t have thought to talk about some of these items (I admit not being emotionally moved by school buses) and would have missed the chance to have a significant conversation. If you have friends, colleagues, or students who are able to travel (or live) abroad, take the opportunity to talk about aspects of life beyond the weather or food. Most of us want to talk about deeper parts of life but don’t know where to start. Hopefully this list gives you a few new ideas to add to your repertoire!

Hope the moon has been nice near you :), Amy

First posted on China Source Blog

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12 Comments September 9, 2014

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  1. Janet says

    September 9, 2014 at 6:18 am

    My daughter’s new Kenyan husband couldn’t believe that Americans take their dogs for a walk and then carry their poop around in a plastic bag!

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    • Amy says

      September 9, 2014 at 6:20 am

      That’s funny … and now that you think about it :)!

      No, I’ve been in countries where it’s not picked up, I’ll take a little, “that’s funny!” and clean streets :)

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      • Jonathan says

        September 9, 2014 at 9:12 pm

        The neighborhood I lived in while I was in Changchun was amazing. Except the dog poop. Everywhere! And then it would dry up, and then it would snow on it, and then the dogs poop in the snow, which freezes it, and then…oh gosh and then the snow melts. The winter poop unfreezes. The non-winter poop rehydrates. It’s a madhouse!

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        • Amy says

          September 15, 2014 at 1:28 pm

          Um, madhouse isn’t the word that first came to mind :)!!!!!!

          Reply
  2. LeAnne says

    September 9, 2014 at 6:41 am

    Really really wish I had not looked at the nutritional panel for those darn mooncakes. One of my former students brought me a bag of them that she’d chosen specifically for me (she knew the flavors I would NOT want). I’ve gone through more of them than I wish now!

    Interesting list, too. I think many students expect life for everyone to resemble that of Gossip Girl or Friends (back in the day). I’ve had students show genuine surprise that not every American sleeps with a guy on the first date.

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    • Amy says

      September 9, 2014 at 3:44 pm

      I know, right?! How sweet for your friend to do that … but I know know too much of a good thing and all :)

      I was glad to hear that some thought teachers and high school was harder than they expected. For some reason, that made me feel proud :)

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  3. Lisa Z says

    September 9, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    That response to the schoolbus made me chuckle! The only emotion I experience when I see them on the road is: please get out of my way so I can get to work!

    I wandered into a cafe in Chinatown recently to check out the moon cake selection and they were five bucks apiece for those mass-produced, cellophane-wrapped, made-in-China ones! Just couldn’t bring myself to buy one. And now that you’ve provided the nutritional content, I’m glad I resisted the purely nastalgic urge.

    Thanks for the fascinating survey results and talking points for deeper conversations. The moon here was great!

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    • Amy says

      September 15, 2014 at 1:09 pm

      Lisa, you might not know this … but a comment you’ve made has inspired another post I’ll write about China :).

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      • Lisa Z says

        September 16, 2014 at 3:41 pm

        Oooh…that’s intriguing. Can’t wait to see what you have to share!

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  4. Laura Connell says

    September 10, 2014 at 10:27 am

    This was beautiful. I thought about it today when I had to stop for a yellow school bus – usually an annoyance, now it has taken on a deeper meaning. Thanks for that.

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  5. Karen Miedrich-Luo says

    September 10, 2014 at 12:51 pm

    I’ve heard the one about everything made in China but the rest of The list surprised me, too! And I am envious of your molds. I have three but had a hard time finding them and they aren’t nearly as lovely. (One of mine is of a cicada!) I made my mooncakes from scratch last night. Honey and 5-nut filling. Verrrry healthy.

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    • Amy says

      September 15, 2014 at 1:08 pm

      I’ve been thinking that next year I want to try and make my own and now you’ve inspired me even more, Karen!

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